Control your thoughts and you control your world.
It’s been a challenging year, not just for those who have chosen to venture on their own paths, but for the world. The year 2020 is now associated with negativity and fear. While we can choose to allow these negatives to bring us down, we can also choose to find the positives and see the good–just in time for the holiday season.
Just like we’ve chosen to view embracing who we are, the Outlander within, as a positive rather than hanging to the negative connotation it carries, we can always choose to see the positive. We may not be able to control all that comes our way, but we can control how we respond.
Reframe your mindset to flip the negatives to positives, knowing that you have and you will always overcome whatever is thrown your way.
We’ve all heard the saying, “mind over matter,” but when a phrase becomes commonplace, it is easy to overlook its meaning and just shrug it off. But this is a saying we should all reflect on, especially when roadblocks get in the way.
The mind is a powerful thing and your thoughts control more than just your actions–they control your feelings and overall perception of yourself, situations, and life. When you allow negative thoughts to creep in and hang out, they may alter the way you go about your day, influence every decision you may make going forward, and impact how you respond to miscellaneous situations.
The simple act of changing your perception – turning negative thoughts into positive ones – could make or break your day. The choice is yours: to remain in that negative headspace or to flip the switch and choose to see the positives. At the end of the day, you’ll want to choose happiness.
To put this into perspective, let’s say you woke up on the bright side, choosing to feel happy, grateful, and ready to take on the day. On your morning coffee run, your order takes a bit longer than usual, but it doesn’t matter because you’ve already decided today is going to be a great day. You easily forgive the baristas, compliment them extra for working so hard, and happily wait. Contrastingly, let’s say you woke up on the wrong side of the bed and decided to continue the day in a negative headspace. Your response to the coffee delay may be a bit different, likely impatient, stressed, and unforgiving. This will impact not only your happiness, but also the happiness of others around you.
Falling into a negative headspace is mindless. It takes effort to find the light in situations. The key is to turn your negative thoughts into positives–to reframe a poor situation by redefining it. Just as the mind is a powerful thing, words are just as strong. By simply changing the word we use – intentionally selecting a word with a positive connotation instead of a negative one – our entire outlook can change.
Next time you’re faced with a difficult situation, instead of labeling it as a “problem,” redefine it as a “challenge.” A problem is something negative that needs to be fixed, while a challenge is something to overcome. This is ultimately a learning opportunity that will make you stronger in the end.
When you choose to see negative situations as challenges, you’re allowing yourself the opportunity to overcome, learn, and grow. You set yourself up for success rather than failure, and learn to trust that you can make it though, after all.
Take it from Balance Owner & CEO Taylor Dilk:
“I choose to focus on the positives vs the negatives, and not get so caught up in my head. One thing I do know is that I always get through it, no matter what.”
Trust in yourself, choose to see the positives, and don’t overthink it.
Selecting positive words and seeing the bright side seems easy enough, but these actions don’t have a true impact until you believe in their value. If you don’t believe that what you are telling yourself is positive, or that there are positives in a negative situation, nothing is going to change.
If you’re finding it difficult to believe in the positives, it helps to revisit your “why” – your happiness, your true calling, and the reason for pushing through adversity. Negative thoughts lead you astray from your “why.”
Choose to see the positives, reframe your mindset, and know that this choice will impact your life for the better.
1. Describe what happens when you’re faced with a difficult, negative situation. How do you respond? What are the first thoughts that come to mind?
2. Are your thoughts and actions negative or positive? Label them and describe how the thoughts/actions you listed affect the situation and your perspective.
3. If you tend to fall into a negative headspace, what steps can you take to reframe your mindset and see the positives? List 1-5.